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How do you teach your child to be dutiful to the parents; to be respectful and loving to the siblings; to be cautious with all people, matters and objects in our daily lives; to be trustworthy person; to love all beings equally; to be close to and learn from people of virtue and compassion?
How do you “teach” and “instill” virtues and values into your child? The so-called virtues and values are actually referring to the preference that determines one’s decision in making a selection when face with choices in life. For example, if your child has a hundred dollar and he is approached to donate the hundred dollar to the Earth Quake Disaster Fund, whether he will donate the hundred dollar to the Fund or prefer to keep the hundred dollar so that he can use it to replace his hand phone with a newer model, is dependent on his values system.
It is important to understand that the virtues and values are learned and built up through the actual life experiences; your child will therefore naturally learn the virtues and values through what he actually sees and the personal experiences that he undergoes in his life; he does not therefore learn the virtues and values solely from what is taught by the teachers or what is said by the parents. He learns from the actions of the role models that he associates with, who can be his parents, teachers, friends or anyone close to him. The parents therefore need to reflect upon themselves and review their own attitudes towards life so that they can become the right role model for the child to learn from.
In a recent school holiday, the Parents Association of a school organized an outing to the zoo for the students from different classes in the school. The parents responsible for food has prepared delicious sandwiches, burgers, and fried chickens. However, there were students who complained about the food and refused to eat them; and there were also students who take a few bites of the sandwiches or the fried chicken and threw them away as they complained that the taste does not satisfy their taste buds.
The parents responsible for food appeared to be very worried and kept pestering these students to take their food and even offer to buy them any food of their wish. However, there were also another group of students who commented, “Let them be if they refuse to eat the food that has been prepared, why do you need even to bother about them!” This same group of students was also very critical and criticized those who have wasted and thrown away the food without eating them. When approached and asked, this group of students replied, “We have a different value system in life!”
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Parenting tips can come from a variety of places however it is important to make sure that those giving the tips hold your same values. Looking around you’ll see that more and more children seem to be out of control. You have record numbers of acts of violence in schools and some of the most disrespectful generation of children ever seen. Many parents are at their wits end and trying to find good parenting advice and there are many places to find this advice you just need to make sure that the advice you are getting actually works within your family.
The Best Place to Start
One of the best places to get some good sound tips about parenting is from your own parents. Seriously, they raised you didn’t they, and you turned out fine didn’t you? You may be surprised at what a wealth of knowledge you can gain for asking your parent/s for their input on the situation. They will not only have a different perspective but they have also had the experience of raising a child from birth to adulthood. The most important thing about getting advice from your parent/s is to be completely honest about the situation you are having trouble with. Remember they love you and their grandchild so there is no reason to sugar-coat the situation.
The other positive to going to your parents is you already know how they believe. You know the traits that they find to be important for raising a successful adult. For example, you know how they feel about spanking a child. So if they are pro-spanking then you will understand where there advice is coming from. This is important as many times the tips you may receive from others will not coincide with how you believe.
Things to Look For When Accepting Tips on Parenting
You can find a countless amounts of articles, magazines and books all geared toward giving parents advice. You really need to watch the agenda of what the person giving the advice is. For example if the article you are reading is written by a person that advocates children being able to divorce their parents you may want to take that advice with a grain of salt. This person will not have your child’s best interest at heart, they are just attempting to push and further their personal agenda.
Something else you should keep in mind when looking for parenting tips is your child is unique so the advice you are receiving will be general advice, not advice directed towards your child. An example of this is if your child is very shy and you just read an article about how children should be encouraged to socialize. You may need to customize the steps that they advised you to do so that your child is not overwhelmed at the idea of meeting new people.
All parents need a little help every once in a while and finding a good source for advice is important. Make sure that the advice you receive is advice that actually works with you and your family’s value system. Remember, the parenting tips you receive may need to be customized to fit your child’s personality.
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