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My daughter had a play date recently with a younger girl in our neighborhood. This other child’s behavior is often is difficult and playing with her is not always fun for my daughter, but it was vacation week, no one else was around and the play date was to be at the other little girl’s house. I knew the mom would be present, so I agreed. We limited the play date to two hours.

The play date went smoothly-the girls got along fine. When I returned to pick up my daughter, the other child (let’s call her Susie) told me about a game they had played with the linens from her parents’ bed. They put them all over the floor (pillows, comforter, and sheets) and had made a fort out of them. The girls insisted I looked at the fort.

On the way into the bedroom to see it, the other mom took me aside and told me that she wasn’t sure letting them play with the bed things was the right thing to do. She asked me what I thought about it and how we handle things like this at our house.

I told her that the rule in our house is that Mom and Dad’s things are off limits. I told her that I don’t wish to put my head on a pillow that’s been on the floor, or put my body between sheets that have been on the floor with children rolling around in them, no matter how clean I know the floor to be.

I also said that occasionally, I permit my daughter to use the pillows from the family room couch to play with in one of her imaginative play scenarios, but only if she asks first and we agree that when she is finished everything will look as it did before she played.

The other mom then said to me – “so that’s why your daughter looked over at me to ask if it was okay when Susie began taking things off the bed.” This other mom was amazed that my daughter would ask before doing this!

This was one of those times that I knew that all of the teaching and modeling and talking to my child about what I consider good behavior really did get through to her. I was very proud of my daughter. I was very proud of myself – I had a moment of knowing that I am getting it right.

The other mom then told her child that there is a new rule in their house – she must first ask before using mom and dad’s bedding for play and that, if permission is granted, everything must go back the way it was before.

When my daughter and I were alone in the car I told her that I was pleased to hear that she looked for permission before just going along with what the other child wanted to do. She told me she was surprised the other mom just let the kid wreck the bed and play with all the bedding! That was why she looked for permission – for my daughter, who is used to the structure and rules in our home, it didn’t seem to be the appropriate thing to do.

I told her that I thought she showed good judgment by asking first and I really appreciated the respect she showed the other mom.

My daughter was beaming with happiness at the praise and the rest of the day was terrific. Sometimes we get to see the results of our parenting and that gives us the confidence to know that we are on the right track.

This also points out how important it is to communicate to your kids the household rules and behavioral expectations. If you haven’t done that already – get going!

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How do you teach your child to be dutiful to the parents; to be respectful and loving to the siblings; to be cautious with all people, matters and objects in our daily lives; to be trustworthy person; to love all beings equally; to be close to and learn from people of virtue and compassion?

How do you “teach” and “instill” virtues and values into your child? The so-called virtues and values are actually referring to the preference that determines one’s decision in making a selection when face with choices in life. For example, if your child has a hundred dollar and he is approached to donate the hundred dollar to the Earth Quake Disaster Fund, whether he will donate the hundred dollar to the Fund or prefer to keep the hundred dollar so that he can use it to replace his hand phone with a newer model, is dependent on his values system.

 

It is important to understand that the virtues and values are learned and built up through the actual life experiences; your child will therefore naturally learn the virtues and values through what he actually sees and the personal experiences that he undergoes in his life; he does not therefore learn the virtues and values solely from what is taught by the teachers or what is said by the parents. He learns from the actions of the role models that he associates with, who can be his parents, teachers, friends or anyone close to him. The parents therefore need to reflect upon themselves and review their own attitudes towards life so that they can become the right role model for the child to learn from.

In a recent school holiday, the Parents Association of a school organized an outing to the zoo for the students from different classes in the school. The parents responsible for food has prepared delicious sandwiches, burgers, and fried chickens. However, there were students who complained about the food and refused to eat them; and there were also students who take a few bites of the sandwiches or the fried chicken and threw them away as they complained that the taste does not satisfy their taste buds.

The parents responsible for food appeared to be very worried and kept pestering these students to take their food and even offer to buy them any food of their wish. However, there were also another group of students who commented, “Let them be if they refuse to eat the food that has been prepared, why do you need even to bother about them!” This same group of students was also very critical and criticized those who have wasted and thrown away the food without eating them. When approached and asked, this group of students replied, “We have a different value system in life!”

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What is right is right and what is wrong is wrong; there must not be any avenue that a wrong thing can be allowed just because the child gets the special permission from the “good guy” or any other avenues.

Parents need to communicate and have a common understanding on the methods to educate your child to achieve maximum effects. Is there a need for one to act as a “good guy” and the other to act as “bad guy” as advocated by some? I do not quite agree to use this method of acting “good guy” and “bad guy” to teach your child. In the up-bringing of your child, your child must have a clear understanding of the rules that govern all the activities in the home; what is right is right and what is wrong is wrong; there must not exist any avenue that a wrong thing can be allowed just because the child gets the special permission from the “good guy” or other avenues. The parents must have this common understanding on the method to be adopted in educating the child.

 

Parents may find it to be more difficult “not to give” than “to give” to their child. This could be attributed to the fact that the parents may not have the opportunity to enjoy these material things when they were small; and now that they have their child and the capability, they want to give the best of everything to their child. As a consequence of this thinking, the parents tend to buy anything for their child and send the child to learn anything which the parents consider to be good for the child. However, do the parents realize whether these are what the child wants or these are what the parents want as they were deprived of them when they were small? When the parents unconsciously regard “giving material things to the child” as a source of joy and happiness, they have also at the same time, deprived their child of their happiness.

 

Recollecting the time when I was small, I had to work hard in order to get or to earn the things that I want. When I finally get it, I am fully satisfied and I treasure it because it was obtained through my hard work and I had to go through the process of wanting, expecting, and working for it and finally getting it. The kind of joy and the sense of achievement are not describable by words. However, if the child is able to get things easily from you, the child would not be able to appreciate the joy of getting it and would therefore not be able to treasure it and be grateful for it. Worse still, he may develop the mind set of taking things for granted and take this as his god-given right and that it is your sole responsibility to give him.

 

Parents need to hold-back this great desire of giving everything to your child and need to work on a mutual understanding of allowing your child to work for it so that your child too can learn the process of working for the things that he wants and has the joy and gratitude when he finally achieves in getting what he wants.

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Why do parents need tips on how to start this conversation with their kids when they ask, “where do babies come from?”

Could it be that they are scared? What are they scared of?

I know I was until I asked myself, “why am I scared to talk with my child about sex?” I realized that all the reasons I was scared to talk to my children about sex had nothing to do wiith reality. I was scared only because of what I was imagining.

An imagined conversation:

- “Where do babies come from?”

- “Inside Mommy’s tummy.”

- “How do they get there?”

- “There are seeds inside mommy, just like there are seeds inside of fruits.”

This could be the end of the conversation or it could go on.

The point is to answer the question as truthfully and as simply as possible given the age of the child.

Once a child is aware of their genitals, there is nothing wrong with explaining how “the seeds inside of Mommy” get fertilized.

What are we so afraid of? What do we imagine would happen if we told our child about sex? Are we afraid that it would make them want sex? Or what?

There is nothing really to be afraid of. It is all imagined.

Thus, the primary tip for how to start this conversation is to get past your fear, which is coming from your imagination. Once you can see beyond your fear, you can listen litereally to what your child is asking and answer appropriately to the actual question, not to what you imagine the question is getting at.

Notice it is not the parent who is starting the conversation. It is up to the child to start it. Children start the conversation by asking the questions. Just answer the actual questions. It is easy to listen when you are free from your fears. Remember, your fears are the result of what you are imagining, not the result of any real danger.

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Success without fulfilment equals failure and a lot of our pain comes from one or more of the six not being met. Now the good thing about that is; you’re about to learn what those 6 needs are as well as some options for ensuring that you are meeting your own needs and then helping to meet your children’s needs (remember the aircraft scenario, where you put your own mask on before you put the mask on of others.)

We can sometimes look at the challenges we have with ourselves, our children and partner as a problem and get bogged down in the pain or we can focus on creating an opportunity to learn, grow and develop our relationship. You may also find that as you resolve your own needs those of your children may be met and therefore the issue disappears. There’s this theory, and it is only a theory, that the world around you, is a bit like a mirror and it reflects what is going on within you. So theoretically if you clear “stuff” up within yourself by meeting your needs then some of the issues that are faced by those you love may also disappear. Mmmmmm, interesting stuff.

Now I know that that may sound like new age hippy stuff about embracing problems and being at one with the world. The thing is sometimes it’s not about what you are doing; it’s about who you are BEING. We learn more from our mistakes in life than from our successes. It’s not what is going on in your life, but how you respond to it that counts; it’s about BEING response-able.

It’s interesting that as you learn about the 6 needs you will instantly recognise in your life when the need is not being met. How? Well normally we will ‘act out’, and that’s you as well as your children, when our needs are not met. It’s interesting, especially when you start to look at your children and their behaviour, then look at what is going on when they are ‘acting out’ that you can start to recognise that one or more needs are not being met. You can then start to help your child meet their needs in a more ecological (good for them, your family and the wider world) way.

The thing is Parenthood is one of those things that didn’t come with a handbook. Some people didn’t even apply for the job and yet here you are responsible for the wellbeing and development of another one, or more, human beings. Now that used to scare the living daylights out of me; now it only scares me a little bit;). The reason being is sometimes it’s not about getting it right all the time, it’s not about doing the right thing and being politically correct all the time, the key is your intention behind the action.

Children of any age can see through adults like we are made of glass and if your intentions are misplaced then they will see right through you. It’s better to be up front and honest than to try and manipulate your children into doing something. Now I know that sometimes we don’t tell our children the whole truth and nothing but the whole truth, because it’s also our job to protect them from ‘stuff’ that may be going on in the family, whether it is financial worries, relationship problems or anything else. Just remember be as honest as you can. Be yourself and stop trying to be the perfect parent, whatever that happens to be. One of my sons said to me when he was about three…”Mum, you’re the best mum in the world” and yes I felt rather smug…then he said “Auntie Shirley is the best mum in the world for Jessica and Auntie Linda is the best mum in the world for Lewis, because we picked you to be our mum”. Talk about being insightful! You are the best mum or dad for your child, so stop trying to get it right and start having fun and play around with being the best parent you can be. Oh and when you do make a mistake, apologise, there’s nothing like being a good role model. We expect our children to apologise and sometimes forget to do so ourselves.

It’s important to remember that how you go about getting your needs met will either empower or dis-empower you. There are two ways to have the tallest building in the world; you can build one yourself or tear everyone else’s down.

Fulfilment is where you do things that are VERY IMPORTANT, BUT NOT URGENT. Satisfying your needs contains all of the actions that we “never get to” because we are “so busy”. So as you read through the upcoming e:mails, think about how you can have your needs met and think about you can help your child meet their needs; and here’s the thing, I want you to commit to making the time to make the changes and to take action. Can you do that? Yes? Great. No, then maybe your not ready to make the change…. yet.

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In a child’s education an important factor is the parents’ expertise for the “job”. No one is born holding all the knowledge, but we can learn and understand things from books or take the advice of qualified persons.

Amongst the commandments a parent should strictly follow are the following:

1. Do not underestimate your child – he can understand more than you think he does and if you make him believe you think poorly of him this might affect his development.

2. Don’t use threats – a child loves a challenge and once threatened he might go on and do what he wasn’t suppose to just to see if he can escape the punishment.

3. Do not bribe your child – if you are trying to get him to learn for money, for example, he will fail to understand the importance of learning, all he will get from this is the importance of money.

4. Do not make a small child promise something – small children can’t hold promises so don’t force them to lie and then punish them because they did that.

5. Do not keep them under a short leash – to grow up normally children need some space, some freedom.

6. Do not use big words or too many words when you are talking to your child – keep your ideas simple and concise so he can understand every thing you have to say.

7. Do not expect an immediate and blind obedience – it is not recommended, the child has to learn to think for himself, not to follow orders.

8. Do not indulge him too much – he can develop compartmental disorders.

9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game – the trick for a game to be educational is to have its initial rules respected.

10. Don’t impose rules that don’t go with the age of your child.

11. Do not try to inflict guilt – guilt is not an appropriate feeling for children, especially if they are little.

12. Don’t give your child orders that you don’t take seriously – your child will try to please you and giving him an order is drastic. It becomes cruel if that order is a joke.

All these “commandments” are addressed first to the parent. But they need to be referred to by teachers and educators as well. Along with the parents, they will settle upon an attitude and strategy for the education and growth of the child, so that they can give him all the things he needs to properly develop emotionally and physically.

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