The three best parent tips that can help you to utilize gentle ways to discipline bad behavior are all tied together. They are not easy but they make parenting much, much easier in and of themselves. They are also character development actions which make you feel better about yourself after you do them.
The Three Parenting Tips to Gently Discipline Bad Behavior
1. Personalize the situation with compassion before you react or respond. Told you they were not going to be easy. Be extremely patient and ask them the reason why they misbehaved in an understanding tone. You must be on their side in the beginning especially if you want to convince them to tell you the truth.
2. Use compassion even when you are doling out the discipline. This one is a bit difficult at first but once you get the hang of it,it actually becomes sort of pleasing in a strange way. When you are telling them that they are now not going to be able to watch their favorite t.v. show because they have misbehaved, do so in a loving voice and give them a kiss.
At first they will be so confused and distraught they will not know what to do. We have all seen it before the loving mom dishing out punishments with that optimistic sunshine voice of love. They do it because it works. So try this out and make a habit of it.
3. Understand everything from all angles FIRST before you discipline them. Then explain it to them and make sure they know or see all those other angles. This will help them to understand the reason for the punishments and the ‘Why’ of their misbehavior.
I am almost certain that if you have children who misbehave you have tried these all before and to no avail. Try them again only this time focus on Your behavior at the moment you are disciplining them and ask yourself these questions:
Are you emotional?
Are you being completely understanding of the situation by being as objective as you can?
Are you understanding? By that is meant are you understanding what they are going through as well as what they are putting others through?
Also make sure you know the whole of the situation. In many cases our children are really unaware of what kind of behavior is not acceptable and at the very least they may not know the Why of it. This is easy to forget and hard to remember when we are caught up in the moment.
So as a lasting never fail parenting tip to help you discipline your children with gentle understanding and the compassion of true sympathy; Always Wait! This is the absolute best working tip to parenting misbehavior. Wait ten minutes after the incident. Longer if you need to; in fact this can work to your advantage as they are anticipating the worst they are forced to think about what it is they have done.
Then take ten breathes and think about the best punishment that is appropriate and will help them to learn from the experience. Effective parenting tips are always the best ways to reach your children and really cause the kinds of change we want. Always remember that all human beings respond to gentleness and we all pay more attention and respect to level-headed leaders as opposed to hot-headed authority.
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